Perhaps you're here, on this website, reading this article because you've never had a one night stand, and you're curious. You have a ton of questions, and they're all shouting out at once: Would a one night stand be right for me? How will I know if I will enjoy a one night stand? What should I do on a one night stand? How should I prepare for a one night stand?
We're experts here, and so we've put together some of our adult dating advice, from years of answering readers' problems and searching out new trends and viewpoints, to share with you, in the hope that it puts you at your ease and helps you make a decision.
So, first things first. You're at least interested in pursuing a one night stand. But you don't know where to start.
Well, as we often say, the best place to find anything is online. Think back to fifteen or twenty years ago. The idea that you could have found fuck buddies on the internet was, well, laughable. There were adult dating personals in the local classified papers, and in the back of your adult magazines, but you never knew if they were for real - for one, they didn't have pictures.
Hello sailor. Tall female, 39, blonde eyes, blue hair, WLTM solvent gentleman for no-strings fun. Box 427.
If you're too young to remember adverts like these, that's how it used to be! You used to be expected to choose from a line or two of text, just like this. You'd write away - with a pen, you know, on a piece of paper - and wait for a couple of weeks for them to write you back. They reply would also arrive on a piece of paper, through your door, probably while you were at work.
Thankfully, now we live in simpler times. You can pick and choose from an array of potential one night stand havers online, see their pictures, find out their interests, location, measurements, and get a good idea - through talking to them on instant chat software - of whether you'll be a good match or not; whether your needs and desires are compatible. What a time to be alive!
So why not have a one night stand? What's holding you back? Why have you never done it? Perhaps you've thought about it - perhaps you've even come close.
When a one night stand goes wrong - it happens rarely, but it happens - the wonderful thing about it is that you can just disappear (the kids call it 'ghosting') and if it's someone you met online, you never need to see them again. You can ignore their IMs, or their emails, and move on. In the 'olden days', of course, they might have had your postal address - although the idea was that you wrote to them via a box number.
Which leads us on to the final point of this email: personal safety. Especially from a female one-night-stand-haver's point of view, the internet, while offering a hugely increased number of potential mates to choose from, also offers unparalleled access to information about said potential fuck buddies.
If he gives you his real name, you can Google it for past convictions, dissolved companies, and far-right Facebook group memberships. If he gives you his picture, you can reverse Google Image Search it to make sure it's really him - if it turns out to be Zac Efron's brother on a jetski, you know that he's probably really 60, or 12.
The point of all this is that the internet offers broad, exciting new vistas of sexual experience up to anyone willing to explore. There are literally thousands, if not hundreds of thousands of websites out there with different people signed up to them, all of which are looking for exactly the same thing you're looking for - easy, free sex, plenty of it, with a random selection of hot strangers. Convenient, fast, free. And why shouldn't you have it? It's not as if it's as hard as paying for a PO Box anymore, writing a letter and trying desperately hard to impress; licking the stamp, posting it off and waiting by the mailbox to hear. In fact, what we're trying to say is this: it's so easy, compared with how it was in times past, that if you haven't tried finding a one night stand online yet - well, what the hell are you waiting for?