How do you know, when you meet an attractive single stranger, that you will be good fuck buddies? Take this short quiz and find out!
How to know if you will be good fuck buddies:
- Are you attracted to them?
- Are they attracted to you?
- Are you both available?
- Can you communicate well?
- You have to know what you want...
- ...and be willing to tell them
- Are they listening?
- Do you trust them?
- How do they look at you?
- How do they talk to you?
- Do you like the way they smell?
- Do you find their walk sexy?
- Are they a good dancer?
- Their hands - do you think about them touching you?
Did you answer yes to any of these 14 questions? Read on to find out about making a great connection with your fuck buddy...
Is the flirting game strong? Perhaps you sense that they're laughing at your jokes a little longer than expected. Are they throwing their head back to laugh, and baring their throat? Do they close their eyes? These are telltale body language signs - pre-human in origin - of submission, and of attraction. Closing your eyes when you laugh signals trust in the speaker. Think about it - you wouldn't close your eyes if you thought you were near a potential enemy.
Eye contact is, in fact, a great indicator of your connection and chemistry.
- Do they make enough eye contact with you?
- But not too much?
- Do they position their body close enough to yours...
- ...but not too far away?
- Have they touched you yet?
- Have you got their full attention? They're not looking around the room, or over your shoulder?
- Do they want to know if you want to see them again?
Other ways to tell if you will be good fuck buddies:
You trust them - Trust is a huge part of any NSA sexual relationship, and if you don't trust your fuck buddy, you're going to have to work a whole lot harder to keep your relationship casual and under wraps. It's worth it, in the early stages, to have several discussions about your limits, likes and dislikes, boundaries and dealbreakers. Although it might seem like a turn-off, it's better to know if you can trust someone early on - and save yourself a lot of time and energy (and worry!) later on.
They want you - They should be making it clear that they want to get you alone. If you're not sure if they're interested, consider making the first move - or leave them alone. Life is too short to be chasing after disinterested lovers. Leave them and go to another room in the party, or another bar, or another work conference, and find a secret lover there who will show you how much they appreciate you.
You're in tune - So you've been chatting and slowly turning up the heat, making jokes and flirting. Are they responding in the same way? If you have a nagging feeling of 'chasing', you might be out of step with the speed at which they want to take things - and, likewise, perhaps they're moving too fast for you, and you want to get to know them before you hop into the sack! These are all perfectly valid feelings. If they're not picking up on your hints about how fast or slow you want to move, you may want to consider finding a fuck buddy with better intuition and who is better at reading your body language.
They're ready - Speaking of body language, if you're at the point where you're about to ask them if they're up for it, your prospective fuck buddy should be giving you some pretty clear signals. These can include, but are not limited to:
- Throwing the head back / exposing throat
- Touching their own hair / face / lips (strongest signal of all)
- Touching you
- Pressing their body against yours
- Lips parted when they look at you
- Strong eye contact
If you are observing several of these signs, there's a really good chance that the attractive stranger you've been chatting up is ready to take things to the next level with you, and that you've met your new fuck buddy.
However, you still have to ask!
But how do you know if you will be compatible with a fuck buddy when you're chatting online?
If you haven't yet met in person, it can be A LOT harder to pick up on inviting signals, arousal, etc. But not impossible! Look for the following things in your online or text chats with prospective fuck buddies (and try to get them on video chat, if you can!):
- Fast replies to your messages
- Enthusiastic replies to your messages
- Not a lot of 'ummmm' or 'lol' in the messages
- Flirty talk / sexy talk
- The eggplant emoji (wink wink)
If you're chatting with a fuck buddy online and you want to know if you will be good together in person, make sure to set your ground rules and find out some basics before you meet - who can accommodate, time limits, boundaries and no-go areas. You can even discuss fantasies and other things you might be more comfortable sharing online - really, chatting online is the perfect way to get to know a fuck buddy before you meet. It's always hard to make that transition to meeting in person, especially if you're shy, but as long as you go along to the meeting place (and we recommend somewhere dark, quiet, soft music - perhaps after an engagement earlier in the evening, so you've had one drink already and are feeling courageous) prepared to talk and be outgoing, you will quickly make an impression on your new fuck buddy. Have one drink, smile, line your stomach beforehand, and always use protection!